Telltale Body Language
How To Tell Lies Successfully? To make it clear, I am not talking about nasty, evil lies.
Every creative touch you apply to the truth, when you exaggerate, improve, turns it to a lie. Every time you speak with confidence about things you are not really sure about, you are lying.
The difficulty with lying is that the subconscious mind acts automatically and independently of our verbal lie, so our body language gives us away. This is why people who rarely tell lies are easily caught, regardless of how convincing they may sound. The moment they begin to lie, the body sends out contradictory signals, and these give us our feeling that they are not telling the truth. Some people whose jobs involve lying, such as politicians, lawyers, actors and television announcers, have refined their body gestures to the point where it is difficult to ’see’ the lie, and people fall for it.
Try this simple test when an occasion presents itself. Tell a deliberate lie to an acquaintance and make a conscious effort to suppress all body gestures while your body is in full view of the other person. Even when your major body gestures are consciously suppressed, numerous microgestures will still be transmitted. These include facial muscular twitching, expansion and contraction of pupils, sweating at the brow, flushing of the cheeks, increased rate of eye blinking and numerous other minute gestures that signal deceit. Research using slow motion cameras shows that these microgestures can occur within a split second and it is only people such as professional interviewers, sales people and those whom we call perceptive who can consciously see them during a conversation or negotiation. The best interviewers and sales people are those who have developed the unconscious ability to read the microgestures during face-to-face encounters.
Beginners who want to be able to lie successfully must have their body hidden or out of sight. The best way to lie is over the telephone! I used to sleep a lot and was seriously embarrassed with how much sleep I needed (until I had my baby, now I do not sleep) and I had this crazy cheerful “hello” to answer my phone calls so that nobody would suspect.While walking to the telephone receiver I practiced my happy hello. You should practice.
~ Repetitio est mater studiorum ~
An airport is a particularly good place for observing the entire spectrum of human gestures, as people openly express eagerness, anger, sorrow, happiness, impatience and many other emotions through gestures. Social functions, business meetings and parties are also excellent.
